NIGERIA. Lagos. November 23, 2018. James, 26, musician, single with one child.
James’ first time was when he was 19. He was with friends in a club and thought it would be OK to try. He paid 5,000 NGN but says the girl actually raped him, because he didn’t get any pleasure and she did. He was heartbroken and stopped believing in love, and that's why he started paying for sex once a month, because he didn’t want to say ‘I love you’, but still had man needs. Now he’s a musician and is surrounded by girls all the time, so he doesn’t need to pay anymore. He says music made him believe in love again.